Looking for Love – A Guide to Online Dating

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“Oh, l'amour, l'amour, how it can let you down . . .” The Countess DeLave in the screen classic “The Women” knew the piercing pain of Cupid’s arrows. And she never had to deal with Internet chat rooms and online personals. She had it easy. So what, if Crystal stole her third husband? It was worth the look on Crystal’s face when she found out that the cowboy’s money belonged to the Countess. Hot & Heavy - It’s not easy being a bear.  What the hell is a versatile bottom anyway?  Does this bondage wear make me look fat?  How long do I have to wait to call him?  Everyday practical advice from two poppa bears who have seen it, done it and still have the t-shirts to prove it.…
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Hot & Heavy – Coming On Strong

Hot & Heavy – Coming On Strong

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Hi Hot and Heavy What does a guy do, when he finds a man so hot and attractive that he feels like sweeping the guy off his feet? It is just he feels that he may be coming on strong all ready? Sexualbear   Send your questions to Hot & Heavy  Hot: Ah, love at first sight, so romantic. Heavy: Didn’t you fall in love 3 times last week? Hot: Well, I am sure this is different. This sounds real. Heavy: Uh Huh! Well, Sexualbear – play it cool. There’s a fine line between being assertive and stalker. If you think you’re coming on strong, then you are. What kind of feedback are you getting from Mr. Hunk? If he’s not warming up the way you like, try something a…
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Hot & Heavy Fear of the Clones

Hot & Heavy Fear of the Clones

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The huzbear and I have been together for a couple of years now, and my biggest concern is we are going to start dressing alike. Yea, we are about the same size and often share clothes. I dread the day when we show up somewhere in the same outfit. What’s a bear to do? Fear of the Clones Send your questions to Hot & Heavy Hot: You know they say that pets and owners tend to look alike over time, same goes for boyfriends. And before long you are just a single entity, as in “Here are The Bears.” You are just inches away from matching track suits. Step away from the sale rack!! Heavy: Fashion Rule #47 – Unless you actively engage in a sporting activity, you can’t wear…
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Edging – Living on the Brink

Edging – Living on the Brink

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DEAR H&H I AM CONFUSED. LATELY I HAVE BEEN HEARING A LOT OF MY FRIENDS AND PEOPLE ON THE INTERNET REFER TO EDGING.  I HAVE BEEN A SEXUALLY ACTIVE SINCE AMERICAN BEAR MAGAZINE PUT OUT ITS FIRST COLOR EDITION. I ASKED PEOPLE WHO STATED THEY PRACTICED IT. THEY EXPLAINED THAT IT WAS HOLDING OFF AN ORGASM. I AM CONFUSED BECAUSE I ALWAYS THOUGHT THAT WAS FOREPLAY. ARE EDGING AND FOREPLAY ONE IN THE SAME?? HAS MY BEAR STATUS GONE FROM BEAR TO SQUARE? SQUARE BEAR in a 360 world  Send your questions to Hot & Heavy  Hot: Why is he yelling? Heavy:  I don't think he is, I think he left his caps lock on.  He doesn't sound angry.  He's confused, but not angry. Hot: He's seems all worked up. …
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Hot & Heavy Hunting for Bears

Hot & Heavy Hunting for Bears

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I have a sweet tooth for bears. Yes, I like my men with meat on their bones, and if they have hair all over… woof, even better (and don’t get me started with a hairy back)! Usually, when I see bears in bars or hotels, they are always in groups. Most of the times they are laughing and having a very good time. The main reason why I like them? Because they seem to be comfortable in their own skin, and what the heck, because they turn me on! Any advice on how to break into a group or how to approach a bear? Thank you for any input! Alex (hungry and on the prowl in Los Angeles)   Hot: Have you tried dangling meat? Heavy: Oh be careful, remember…
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Hot & Heavy One Sided Sex?

Hot & Heavy One Sided Sex?

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Dear Hot & Heavy I through the years since I came out I have met many a man. Some of them have in mind only one thing - finding a way to get their rocks off without satisfying anybody in return. I have come across some men that are this way. I met a man, who lives not far away I have gone very slowly with him. I have been very patient, and have not rushed into anything with him. My only frustration with him is, he wants me to satisfy his sexual needs, but he always gives an excuse why he cannot mine. I have done my best to not come on strong, and I have backed off on that. I suspect he is only having one sided sex…
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Hot & Heavy practical advice from two poppa bears

Hot & Heavy practical advice from two poppa bears

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It's not easy being a bear.  What the hell is a versatile bottom anyway?  Does this bondage wear make me look fat?  How long do I have to wait to call him?  Everyday practical advice from two poppa bears who have seen it, done it and still have the t-shirts to prove it. . . Hot & Heavy practical advice from two poppa bears  Send your questions to Hot & Heavy One of our many fans writes “What foods are good for sex?” Hot: We have fans?  When did get fans? Heavy:  Would you please focus?  “What foods are good for sex?” Hot: Here is a question I can answer! Food and sex, yum my favorite combo!  Dip me in honey and throw me to the bears . . .…
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LGBT Rights By Country

LGBT Rights By Country

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please i really need you help am a lesbian and am kind of lonely i cant get myself a partner since in my country its kind of illegal so no one can come up an declare the status due to fear what do i do? First and foremost, I feel for your situation. I can't imagine how difficult it must be to not be able to be who you are for fear of persecution.  I wish I could offer simple advice and say it will all be OK, but that is not always the case for our fellow LGBT brothers and sisters in countries where homosexuality is illegal and community members are persecuted. I recommend you understand the laws where you live to determine legality of homosexuality and the potential…
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Who Am I?

Who Am I?

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Alone, scared and confused.  These words could be used to describe a lost child, but in this case, they’re not.  They are the very real and daily feelings of a person who is questioning their sexuality.  For those of you who’ve been there, this may take you back to a place you’d rather not visit.  For many others, it represents the beginning of a totally new and ultimately joyful journey — one of living the life you were meant to and being open and honest about yourself, maybe for the first time. We are everywhere — mothers, fathers, sons, daughters, aunts and friends, discovering and then many times hiding, a major piece of ourselves — our same-sex attraction. For some of us the internal conflict began when we were young. …
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When a partner cheats

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My partner cheated; can I ever trust him or her again? The answer is yes, you can trust again.  Can you trust the person who cheated on you ever again?  That depends on many factors. Need some advice?  Write to Dear Janeen First of all, when someone cheats in a relationship, it is of utmost importance for the person who cheats to take responsibility for the action and the effects the cheating has had on their partner.  Secondly, both partners need to commit to figuring out what the cheating was all about.  Often with cheating comes lying, half truths and communication challenges.  If both partners are able to commit to the following steps, trust can be rebuilt and your relationship can strengthen as a result.  If you cannot rebuild trust,…
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